Monthly Archives: August 2016

When your loved one annoys you…..

Next time your loved one upsets you, or makes you angry – try this simple approach.

Instead of swearing and cursing them under your breath, arguing with them or shutting down yourself…..Remember that they are probably acting from a wounded place, from a time long long ago.

You can also hope that they show you the same consideration, when you grind their gears.

Peace and harmony to all







Domestic Violence

I listened to a radio interview today about Domestic Violence. The host interviewed a women who is a perpetrator of domestic violence, and a man who is a victim of domestic violence.

I was touched by both their stories and it made me realise that we are not being true to the victims, perpetrators or ourselves in the current war against domestic violence. It has become a politically correct cardboard cutout issue – and therefore has lost its momentum and direction.

Domestic violence is not ONLY a crime against women and until we look at the whole issue, we will have no chance of addressing it appropriately.

Yes, I truly understand that physical violence against women is a serious issue. But let’s not forget that violence against anyone… Man, woman or child is a disgusting display of power and control, and is detrimental to the victims, and possibly future generations of those victims.

Domestic violence, is not just about physical violence!!

We are only just beginning to understand exactly how debilitating emotional abuse and violence can be, regardless of your age, or sex. When there is any violence in a domestic relationship it is going to mean that one person is more powerful than the other and this is not always because of size and strength. They don’t always use physical violence to gain and hold that power and control!

I know men, who live in fear, in a constant state of hyper vigilance in their homes. The welfare, safety and security of themselves and their children is threatened on a daily basis.
They can not leave…. Who will ensure the kids are safe?
They can not, or will not take the children away from their mother (for whatever reason).
They will not retaliate for fear of the consequences or threat of losing their children. So where do they go?
Who helps them? No one!!!

I know mothers who are petrified of their children. Where does she go for help?

These people live this nightmare, with the hope that one day it will get better… And apart from the short term effect on everyone in these situations, you will most likely see another generation of domestic violence perpetrators emerging. More often than not, someone who is intimidated, bullied or beaten in one relationship, has a tendency to become the intimidator, bully or perpetrator in another.

So – yes – let’s keep the focus on violence against women in all forms, but let’s ALSO protect our men and children too. Let’s start that debate and keep this issue REAL and alive.

Here is a link to the radio interview if you are interested

Peace and harmony to all

Porridge for Dinner???


As the afternoon wore on, my partner asked me, what I felt like for dinner.

I thought seriously for a minute and said ‘porridge’. He looked at me, as if I had said something terribly ‘politically incorrect’ and responded with a ‘what!!’.

This got me thinking…

Who told us about breakfast, lunch and dinner? And morning tea, afternoon tea and supper?

Why can’t we just eat, what we feel like, when we are hunger?

Our body doesn’t read time.

Peace and harmony to all







Be like a tree …….

Be like a tree, with LIFE being the air around you.

It might be blowing a freezing cold wind or pelting down with rain –

but stand as confidently and peacefully as you do, when the sun is shining brilliantly on your leaves and branches.

Know that however the air around you is, you just let it BE….


Peace and harmony to all



Count down to the Retreat

In the weeks leading up to my Retreat, at Kings Creek Retreat, Krambach on the weekend of 14th October, 2016, I would like to introduce you to our guests.

Meet Helen.  Helen is holding a Yoga session on the Saturday afternoon.  She wishes to share a little about herself.


If, like many of us, you are sometimes aware of stiff muscles, anxious thoughts and a general feeling of unease, then I believe you will enjoy my program.

After being a teacher in schools and university for over 40 years, I am retired now in Forster where I have been teaching yoga for the past five years. I have practiced yoga for over 12 years and have completed a Certificate in Yoga Teaching and am currently studying a Diploma in Yoga Teaching.

After a major illness that led to my retirement, I was fortunate to discover yoga. My own experience has taught me that yoga can help us not only to move more freely but also to start to change some old habits that we might be finding are no longer helpful. As our bodies become more flexible, our mind also starts to be able to imagine different ways of responding to situations and people that we might find difficult.

In my session, you can learn some movement and meditation practices that can assist you to enter a deep level of relaxation of mind and body:

– gentle stretching (yoga asanas), building flexibility and strength,
– relaxation and breathing practices as well as
– Tibetan Yoga (Kum Nye) and meditation.

The gentle movement, relaxation and meditation gently allow physical and mental blockages to release. The Kum Nye practices in particular help our over-active mind to slow down, creating space to allow us to get in touch with our body and our deeper needs – those aspects of ourselves that we so often ignore in the rush of everyday life. We can experience the benefits of living in the present.
You can come to understand that through making some simple changes, you can gain enhanced physical and mental well-being and a sense of managing your life.

With regular practice, your body becomes stronger and more flexible through the physical practices and your mind becomes more resilient and able to cope with everyday demands in a way that is at once gentle and strong.

I look forward to meeting you at the retreat and sharing ways you can begin to find joy and nourishment through being deeply in touch with yourself in every moment.

Strand St Yoga, 23 Strand St, Forster





The gift of time

The gift of time

I saw no beginning and no end

My time was all that I had to give

And my days are filled unexpectedly

With laughter and joy

Combined with a sense of wonder

I still see no beginning and no end

I have only my time to give

And I give it freely with love and compassion



Peace and and harmony to all


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Unconditional Positive Regard…..

I like the sound of that!!

But what does it mean?

Unconditional positive regard is a concept developed by the humanistic psychologist Carl Rogers. It is the basic acceptance and support of a person regardless of what the person says or does.

When that person in traffic, or at work, or at home ‘grinds your gears’ it might be very helpful to cultivate a feeling of unconditional positive regard.  Taking this approach will allow you to stay removed from the behaviour of the person.  We often get caught up, emotionally, in what others do and this is a way out.

It isn’t easy, but with practise it will make your life less stressful.


Peace and harmony to all