Monthly Archives: May 2016

Why do lies hurt?

How do you react when you discover that a loved one has lied to you?

I was raised to believe that all lies are bad and the only reason someone would lie, would be for dishonest reasons…..

It makes me laugh that at 50 odd years old…. I am now learning to look at lies differently.

Whilst I have spent my life preaching that honesty is the most important thing in a relationship and that all lies are to hide something bad from you…. Iam remembering back and to my discomfit admit that I have lied to people very close to me.  These lies where ‘lies by omission’, but none the less they were lies. They were lies to protect myself, but none the less they were lies.

So I had to decide, does that make me a bad person, or does my paradigm surrounding lies need to be re-evaluated???

Then I got it….. My lies were never with evil or dishonest intent!!!

Now I make that my new observation when I discover a lie.  I ask myself ‘was it told with evil or dishonest’ intent?’

It may even be helpful to ask that question of the person who lied to you… It will help with your understanding and trust of them.

Lies don’t need to mean the destruction of trust, they can provide the platform to deepen trust.

Peace and harmony to all

Lone Wolf


Consequences of our actions

My simple philosophy is that, as healthy mature adult, we can behave however we wish, as long as we are prepared to face the consequences of our actions and are honest about our behaviour.

But society has forgotten about taking responsibility for its actions and facing the consequences.

Here are some example.

If you are dishonest at work, why do you get upset if you lose your job? It is a normal consequence of your dishonesty.

If you are ‘having an affair’ with a married person, why do you get upset if they can’t spend much time with you, or worse the spouse of your intimate friend finds out and is outraged and angry with you? It is a normal consequence of your behaviour.  No one MADE you start a relationship with someone who was married!

If you throw away your identity paperwork and board a boat for shores of another country, why get upset if you are treated with suspicion and not given the special treatment you demand? Your treatment is a consequence of your actions!

If you deal drugs, why cry poor me, when you are caught by the authorities and punished? It is a normal consequence of your behaviour.

When you rape or abuse a child, why cry that you are a victim? You had a choice.  Your treatment is a direct consequence of your behaviour.

If your treat another human being without respect, or are abusive to them, why get upset when they no longer want to be in your life?

There are many such examples if your look around.  Let’s all start truthfully noticing and let’s all start taking full and honest responsibility for our actions and decisions, being considerate of the consequences.

Parents, please don’t tell your 14 year old to get out of the house.  A normal consequence of that is that they will leave.

It is simple really.

The world would be a much better place.

Peace and harmony to all

Lone Wolf





Geneen Roth – Eating Guidelines

There is common sense and a feeling of ‘knowing it to be true’ when you read Geneen Roth’s Eating Guidelines.

See my Book Nook Page for a link to more from Geneen Roth.

Peace and harmony to all

Lone Wolf


Looking at cancer

I am not a Doctor, or a scientist, so what I share here is only for you to research for yourself.  I like to share knowledge and alternative possibilities.  Only you will or can decide if what you read makes sense. might be a good place to start your research.

Peace and harmony to all

Lone Wolf