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Don’t let Grief bring you ‘grief’

You will walk the path alone,

But know others have walked that path before you and many will walk it after you.

Your body needs to continue to work through the stages of grief.

“They” say time heals all… but when you are grieving you don’t want to hear that… and you wish the people who try to make you feel better would just leave you alone…

When you are ready there is an abundance of support to help you through the pain of grief.

Just remember you are not the only one who will walk this path.

 

Peace and harmony to all

Lone Wolf

Honouring our children

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I saw something today that has inspired me to draw our attention to how we cultivate a relationship with our children.

As I was driving to town, a good 20 minute drive, I noticed in the car behind me a young teenager and her Mum.  I imagine given the time of day, Mum was dropping her daughter off at high school.

We were stopped at traffic lights for a considerable time and I had the opportunity to watch their interaction.

I was disappointed…. Mum spent the entire time I was watching, talking on the phone and the young lady spent her time just looking out the window.

I remembered when I used to travel with my kids and we would, chat, laugh and sing …. They still remember it fondly …. And it was a great opportunity for me to show them how important it was to me to spend time conversing with them.

As time goes by the Mum I saw today may wonder why her daughter would rather be on the phone, than talking to her Mum. I won’t wonder… Obviously whoever was on the phone was more important than her daughter…. Even for those few valuable minutes.

Think carefully about how you create a good, lasting relationship with your kids.

Peace and harmony to all

LoneWolf

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Try drumming for mindfulness and meditation

Over the next few weeks, we will look at drumming to enhance our mindfulness/meditation routine.

Check out my Facebook page for a small sample

Peace and harmony to all

LoneWolf

Happiness is ……..

Terrible, Thanks for Asking..

A beautiful young lady came to see me the other day. She had recently lost her husband to cancer and she was struggling.

We talked about the usual types of things that can support us, when grief comes to visit, but she wasn’t drawn to anything we discussed.

She did promise though that she would book an appointment with a grief counsellor.

On her next appointment, I could instantly tell something had changed. There was a smile on her face, a skip in her step and humour in her words.
I asked what had happened since we last met… she said, she found this wonderful ‘Podcast’ and although she cried at nearly every episode, it really made her feel better.
She went on to explain, that the Podcast is about the stories of everyday people, who have had sadness and tragedy knock on their door.

It is called “Terrible, thanks for asking” Click here to listen

I have since listened to a few episodes and I too, can vouch for the incredible effect it had on me.

Thank you “Terrible, thanks for asking” team

Peace and harmony to all
LoneWolf

Back pain

 

   

 

After the birth of my third child, at the age of 30, I developed back pain.  I remember talking to my wonderful GP and he gave me some simple advice.

He said, I know you have been doing your pelvic floor exercises, but now I would suggest you focus on your core muscles.

Surprisingly, with a little focused attention on my core muscles, the back pain disappeared.

Now, every time I start getting back pain, I check in with my core muscle routine ?

Try these for starters and see if it works for you.

Remember to go gently and consult your doctor before beginning any new exercise routine.

Peace and harmony to all

LoneWolf

Relationship Research – take this quick quiz

There are only 5 questions……

Outline: I talk to lots of people about relationships and everyone has a different idea of what their relationship should be like. I am conducting this research to see what the common elements are in a ‘great intimate relationship’.

Criteria: You must be over 18 years old and in a cohabitational intimate relationship

No personal data is collected, nor kept in the research.

Gender ………..

Age ……..

Length of relationship…….

Length of time living together ……….

What are the 4 most important things in your relationship…..
Please answer with a simple sentence for each of the 4 things.

You can respond using the reply button above, or email lonewolfharmony@gmail.com.

Peace and harmony to all

LoneWolf

 

 

Stop using the word ‘Healing’

We do not do ourselves any favours when we talk about personal ‘healing’.

What does that mean?

It means we believe that there is something wrong with us.

That is so aggressive to ourselves

That is so destructive to ourselves

Lets aim for ‘acceptance’ and realise we dont need healing because there is nothing about us that is wrong or broken

Peace and harmony to all

Living in the now

Everywhere I look, they say ‘live in the now’

but nowhere does it explain exactly ‘HOW’

There are simple questions to ask yourself that can help train you, to ‘live in the now’

Throughout the day try to remember this little exercise and try it as often as you remember.  In time, it will become a natural, habitual way of thinking.

* Stop and observe your thoughts…..

* Ask yourself  “Is this thought about something that happened in the past?”  Be it a minute ago, or a year ago.

* Ask yourself “Is this thought about something in the future?”  Be is about tomorrow or many years from now.

* If the answer to either of these questions is yes – then identify that it is not ‘in the now’ and practise letting those thoughts go.

Remember that you can’t change past and the future is yet to be discovered.

So take a look around you and using all of your physical senses – sight, smell, hearing, taste and touch, bring your attention back to this ‘moment’.

What can I see?

What can I hear?

What can I feel on my skin?

What can I taste?

What can I smell?

With practise you will get better at ‘living in the present moment’

Peace and harmony to all

LW